Divorce is a difficult decision. It's even more difficult when there are children involved. When you are already stretched to your emotional limits, it can be hard to make objective decisions about whether you should continue to work at your marriage or if it would be best to part ways.
One seasoned marriage counselor suggests these criteria as benchmarks for when it's time to start seriously considering the option of divorce:
- When the negative interactions outweigh the positive interactions - and don't get better. If your daily interactions are becoming toxic, it weighs not only on you and your spouse, but also on your children and loved ones.
- When the severity of the arguments and conflicts intensify. Even if you and your spouse only clash occasionally, if the intensity of those arguments is abusive (or borderline abusive), it is time to consider your options.
- When you realize that your values are completely different, and non negotiable. Differences in value systems can be masked by the effects of love. When that burns off, you may realize that the two of you never had a true foundation for building a life together.
- When marriage counseling fails. Marriage counseling is not a sure thing. When you cannot resolve your problems by working through them with a professional, it may be time to turn to a divorce attorney.
- When a spouse has been unfaithful. Some couples are able to come back from an affair or unfaithfulness - but many are not.
- When you are emotionally exhausted. When your marriage has drained you emotionally and mentally, it is time to take a step back and honestly take stock of what is left.
No one makes the decision to divorce lightly. It is a hard path. At Ellis Law Firm, we provide skilled guidance to individuals facing this difficult decision, along with the information they need to make the best decision possible. For more information, click here.